Observation Onion

The Anger Iceberg

What's beneath the anger?

Anger is often the emotion people see. It can sit above other feelings that are harder to show.

Visible above the surface

  • Anger
  • Frustration
  • Irritation

Often beneath it

  • Hurt
  • Fear
  • Disappointment
  • Sadness
  • Shame

What may be feeding it

  • Past experiences
  • Memories
  • Beliefs
  • Unresolved feelings

A question to sit with

The next time anger shows up, ask: what emotion is beneath the emotion?